My Personal Stop Doing List

“On the path to defining your own version of success, what you stop doing is just as important as the things you start doing.”  -Danielle Laporte

instead of your to-do list, focus on writing a stop-doing list. The things you stop doing are as important as those you do if you want to be productive, happy, and successful.Danielle Laporte’s words simply resonate so much with me. I’ve always had the tendency to be a procrastinator, finding silly and useless ways to not do what I should be doing, or even what I want to be doing deep down. Some would call it self sabotaging, others would call it laziness. The things I do to avoid doing the important stuff rob my time, my energy, and ultimately my self esteem, as they make me feel like I’m getting nowhere. They also greatly decrease my chances of making the kind of impact I want to have in the world…and that.is.not.cool.

Do you feel this happens to you as well?

Let me introduce you to the Stop Doing List concept.

I wrote about this one year ago, but today I felt like bringing this idea back to life and refreshing my list. I got the concept from my friend Ana Flores. Before I talk about it, let me say that Ana is one of the most inspiring and productive people I know. She’s a wonderful mother, an uber successful business woman, and was listed by One.org as one of 10 change makers in social media you should follow alongside Chelsea Clinton, Maria Shriver, and Lauren Bush Lauren. On top of this she also finds the time to write inspiring blog posts about her own journey of growth, give interviews, and be a great friend who always gives thoughtful replies to your emails. So if Ana is making a “stop doing list”, I for sure want to be making one too.Si quieres ser productiva, feliz, y exitosa, la cosas que haces son tan importantes como las cosas que dejas de hacer. Aprende a escribir tu NO-lista para empezar a cambiar de manera positiva.

The instructions to make your own stop doing list are simple. All you have to do is think of those things you do on a regular basis that don’t spark up your inner fire, and promptly get rid of them to make more space for things that actually matter.

Simple, right?

Here’s mine.

I will stop:

1. Starting my work day until I’ve made my bed and changed my clothes. Working at home can be a quick road to spending your life in pijamas, which make you feel uninspired and like your day never even got started.

2. Watching movies or doing things in my computer until late at night, because waking up energized and ready to meditate, exercise, and have a healthy breakfast before 10am feels much better than not doing it.

3. Making up excuses to cancel plans with friends or going to events I’m excited about. Being an introvert, I’ve always preferred staying home with a book than going out to see people. Whenever cancels got planned, I’ve always felt secretly happy. But in the recent months I’ve really learned to appreciate the importance of connection and of showing up, so my goal is to stop making up excuses and only cancel when it’s absolutely necessary.

4. Taking my dog to the curb to pee and then running right back to my apartment in the middle of the day, when what I really want and what would really energize and nourish me (and her) the most would be to take a longer walk, breathe some fresh air, move my body, and soak some sunshine in.

I would like to add more things to this list, but as a health coach I’ve learned that the best way to make real lasting changes in my life (or anyone’s life) is to take just a few tiny steps at a time. Too many steps all at once can be overwhelming and are too hard to keep up with. Better to be effective at changing a few things, than to be ineffective at changing a lot of things.

So now it’s your turn. What are 3 to 5 things you can STOP doing right away that will make you feel better about yourself and about your life, or that will give you more time and energy for for the things that are important? Tell me in the comments!

Wishing you health & happiness,

Morena Escardo - Holistic Health Coach

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  1. says

    1. I Will stop Waking up at 430 Am only to Stay in bed and get lost in social media On my phone. Instead I Will get up, clear my desk And jump on my laptop to Ck business accounts, respond to parents and Connect with my teachers.

    2. I Will stop being defined by my other persona or my past. I Will stand in my truth. I Will define myself based in my Own view of me. I Will accept who I Am and love myself.

    3. I Will stop suffering alone. I Will reach out to a professional to help me set my goals in motion, address my fears and support my decisiones without judgement. I Will sur round myself with loving people who Will help me take This next step.

    4. I Will stop waiting for someone to take the first step. I Will take The first step. I Will créate a Space for myself as a step towards independance And SELF definition. I Will take control.

    • Morena Escardo says

      Irma, I LOVE every single point on your list. Looking for support and not suffering alone is so important, as is letting your past be just that: your past, so that you can become the person you are meant to be NOW. Thanks so much for sharing! It’s interesting how we can all benefit from each other’s lists. There are many things in yours that I could stop doing too. By the way, waking up at 4.30 am? You go early bird!

  2. says

    Ay, que intro más bella me hiciste! Incredible how crazy it is to read/hear how others perceive you because I would never describe myself as productive. Always nagging my own self about all I’m not doing (which should totally be on my stop doing list!)
    Loved your list and can identify with every single point. The dog walk made me laugh!
    Thanks for sharing this. Let’s keep tabs on each other!!!!

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